"Cordially Hate"?

The alcoholic may find it hard to re-establish friendly relations with his children. Their young minds were impressionable while he was drinking. Without saying so, they may cordially hate him for what he has done to them and to their mother. The children are sometimes dominated by a pathetic hardness and cynicism. They cannot seem to forgive and forget. This may hang on for months, long after their mother has accepted dad's new way of living and thinking.

 

In time they will see that he is a new man and in their own way they will let him know it. When this happens, they can be invited to join in morning meditation and then they can take part in the daily discussion without rancor or bias. From that point on, progress will be rapid. Marvelous results often follow such a reunion. (AA, pg 134)

 

More often than not, the "alcoholic" cannot establish relationships to begin with because the program teaches members that they are forever-victims of  a disease, and the only cure is to go to "meeting", pour out their woes to some woeful stranger, and go to drunk tanks and look for new recruits.

 

What kind of a parent can a man or woman be if they are "working" this program every day?

 

Without saying so, they may cordially hate him for what he has done to them and to their mother. 

 

"Cordially hate him" -- are you kidding me? "Cordial" and "hate" make about as much sense as "legitimate rape". One of many disjunctive phrases in the "Big Book", including "spiritual program" or "fearless, moral inventory", demonstrate how twisted and empty the rhetoric and reasoning of Alcoholics Anonymous was, is, and always will be.

 

The children are sometimes dominated by a pathetic hardness and cynicism. They cannot seem to forgive and forget. This may hang on for months, long after their mother has accepted dad's new way of living and thinking.

 

Such an arrogant appraisal of family hurt and suffering is both sickening and frightening. There is nothing at all pathetic about spouses and children being hurt and angry because of  the damage which alcoholism does to a family. Such condescension exposes the inherent narcissism of the "Founder", Bill Wilson, and the early ilk who pushed this program of destruction and inaction on others.

 

This may hang on for months, long after their mother has accepted dad's new way of living and thinking.

 

What is this "new way of living and thinking", exactly? Point of fat,m it is the same line of thinking that belongs to many cults, and specifically to the Oxford Group. There is nothing "new" in the line of disturbing dependence which Alcoholics Anonymous forces on new members.

 

From that point on, progress will be rapid. Marvelous results often follow such a reunion.

No evidence exists that AA gives rise to "marvelous results." Clinical studies have established that 95% -  95%! -- of people who enter the rooms do not get sober, do not stay. The only marvel is that such a lie has persisted for so long.

"Repeat a lie often enough . . ." Adolph Hitler would have been amazed at the cult-like condition of AA.

I "cordially hate" AA.