Addiction: A Lack of Bonding

It's not just about addiction.

It's about bonding, it's about unconditional love, it's about the gift of righteousness that we receive, and keep receiving (Romans 5:17).

If you want to be set free from destructive habits, you have to deal with the trauma underneath all of it.

Consider this test experiment with mice in cages:

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It's all about acceptance and affirmation. If you cannot find it in God, in His grace, you will look for it in stuff, in drugs, in other addictions.

AA does not treat this root cause. In fact, this horrible cult makes it all worse, because Bill W. and his sick, self-serving fellow gurus wanted to make themselves the center of attention.

They created a "loving God" who can be cut off from you when you feel bad or do something bad, i.e. when you nurse "Resentment."

Nothing could be further from the truth. Think about it,  though--if God's love and favor in your life depends on how you feel, then you get trapped in this terrible, never-ending cycle of pain, trauma, and bondage.

AA creates the very problems that people are trying to medicate. That sense of abandonment, isolation, and abuse cannot be solved with more self-reflection, introspection, and condemnation.

What is needed is bonding, yes, but specifically that "unconditional positive regard" which Carl Rogers often wrote about. There's a better term for it, of course: unconditional love.

And only Daddy God can give us that, which He revealed to us through His Son (John 3:16).